Planning a wedding, trying to get the perfect mix of “castle wedding” and “small animal breeding club” without ruining myself financially

Hello everyone, I've been reading here for a while and thought I'd ask about my experiences because I'm currently in the middle of wedding planning and, to be honest, I'm a little overwhelmed. I also wanted to know what's normal and what's not. Briefly about me: I (34) have built up a solid cushion over the last few years through fairly consistent saving and investing (approx. 100k). Now the wedding is coming. And somehow I feel like I mentally vacillate between: Wi