Shortly before the child, with a job that is too stressful...

Hi guys, I put up one of my editions. M (41) lives with my girlfriend in a pretty place in the north, not far from the Baltic Sea. The “joint account” portion is the costs that we share 50/50. I work in the defense sector and my salary will increase significantly in the next few months, another around €1300 net more per month. Unfortunately, the job is very stressful and I don't think I can keep it up for long without physical discomfort